When It's Over, It's Over.

At least this is the way I've always felt... So why does it seem like even when this is the case, after breaking up, people think it's ok to contact their former significant others? I really don't get it. When things go badly with someone I'm dating, I simply choose not to talk to them again, at least not for a significant amount of time after we've been broken up. I most definitely do not call them days, weeks or months later to "check in"...

Last night I get a text from HFM "I hope your Memorial Day weekend was better than mine was, I'm in a hotel in ------, I've been with clients all weekend". Ok. Let's rewind back to a month ago- I found out I was living in South Florida, not Miami, due to work, he freaked out because I wasn't going to be with in minutes of his winter house and I couldn't split my time between NYC and Miami with him, which made me freak out and we decided it couldn't work. I was fine with this, fine with us being done, fine with us not talking... I've moved on and I'm over it, when he decides to text me. Of course I don't respond, so he proceeds to text me again, and again I don't respond. I wake up this morning to a blinking Blackberry filled with social networking notifications that he's tagged photos of us... Together.

Maybe it's just me, but in my experience when things are done with someone they are done. As in OVER. Maybe I'm losing it, but is this behavior somehow suddenly the norm? It's like every time I move on with my life and start seeing someone else, the last person I dated is suddenly trying to be back in my life... I guess the old saying is true "we always want what we can't have"... Well, I can tell you one thing... I do know what I certainly don't want...

XoXo,
LMM

Have I Gone Dating Retarded?

Wtf. Wow. I can not believe I have come to this point. Am I a complete and total idiot when it comes to my own dating life? Have I gone "dating retarded"? Am I missing all the red flags that appear when you are supposed to realize that people are complete and total assholes or am I just in a haze combined mostly of stress about moving?

All I can say is ew, ew, ew...

ICKKKK with a capital I,
LMM

Where You Lead I Will Follow.

Have you ever noticed that in relationships we tend to follow the lead of the other person? It's kind of like the golden rule, "treat others the way you'd like to be treated", turned into the golden rule of dating, "treat others the way you're being treated". Maybe it's just me, but I've always been the type to pull back when someone I'm seeing pulls back, to give more when they give more, and not give a shit when they don't give a shit. But is this really the right way to date? Should we be following less of the dating golden rule and more of the original one? Would this make dating any easier? Or will the game of give and take always be the way dating is played out?

I have never been one to really care too much about the guys I've dated. I've always taken the "if it works it works" mentality when it comes to guys, and maybe this isn't the way to approach things. Maybe more of us should be going into dating thinking, "I should try and make it work", as opposed to my attitude. Would this make relationships more functional? Would this make them actually work? I can't say I know the answer. But. I suppose these days, anything's possible...

XoXo,
LMM

Stress-Stress-Stress.

This morning I woke up hoping my condo stresses would be over. I hoped in vain. I now get to go and deal with the condo association, before they allow me to move in. This wouldn't be that big of a deal, except I am staying with my best friend here and Meg is flying in tomorrow and I'd really like to be in my own place by then. I can only pray the board agrees, though I don't think they'll really care that 4 girls are going to be stuffed into one condo, which doesn't even happen to mine.

I've been so busy with this stuff and work lately that I've barely had time to update anyone in the real or cyber world about my dating life. So now that I have 10 minutes here's a basic breakdown: I'm over it. Not over dating, not over relationships, not even over falling for anyone, I'm just over writing about it for a little while. I always go through these stages, sometimes for days, sometimes for weeks, usually not too much longer, where I get sick of writing about all of the drama in my love life and throw in the towel for a little while. Maybe this time it will stick, maybe this time it won't. I may be blonde, but I'm not dumb and it's plain as day that my new home is no NYC and chronicling my love life probably isn't going to go in quite the same fashion here as it did in the Big Apple. So sianara to details about my love life for now until I figure it all out. Or at least some of it... Don't worry, I'm not leaving you, I'll still be blogging every day, just blogging minus the dating dramas for a while...

xoxoxox,
LMM

Megs in SoFlo.

My best friend from NYC is flying in Wednesday night to interview for jobs here this week and I'm so excited! As long as all goes as planned she is moving here in a few weeks, which is practically amazing. Kate gets here in 3 weeks, too, so there will be 3 of us here causing trouble on a week (endly) basis.

I had so much fun this weekend with Jen it's not even funny, I can't wait until the girls are here to join in the fun...And I can't wait until I move into my new condo, (finally), hopefully this week...I feel like things are starting to come get together and I'm slowing beginning to de-stress and start to enjoy a more laid back lifestyle...And I can't wait until my BFF is here to share it with me!

xoxo,
LMM

Car And Apartment Hunting.

I'm getting a car today, which shouldn't be that exciting for a 24 year old, except for the fact that I was in in NYC for the past two years so I haven't driven in a loooooooong time! It's amazing how much we take transportation for granted in the Big Apple, I sure will appreciate it after being stuck with out a car and no way to get anywhere all week! It will be nice to be able to go and look at houses/condos/apartments on my own this weekend, even though I think I found the perfect condo today...But I have to wait until tomorrow to hear back for sure from the owners, who were by the way adorable! The guy was an elderly Greek man who was sooo sweet and cute and said I reminded him of his daughter, who was also blonde, a Greek blonde, lol? And he said he thought we were twins...hehe...Since I look so Greek? Although half of my ex-boyfriends are Greek, I'm not really sure why, though? Heh.

I'm so glad to finally be getting settled and even more glad to be able to get back to working 100% and not have to worry about a car or a house! Megan is coming next week to interview for jobs and Kate is moving here in a few weeks, so I'm so excited! Everything is finally coming together and I am ready to work and have fun here! I can't wait to be settled and moved in and go to the beach and go out and play on the weekends! Yay!!! :)

Confusion.

I feel more confused now that I am where I'm going to be than I was when I wasn't where I was going to be. I can't explain why, but I am more in limbo now than I was before. I just want to know. I want someone to give me all the answers and tell me if I should be with someone or not, or pursue something or not.

Is this too much too ask?

I would like a rule book with all the answers, so that way I don't have to wonder or worry about whether I'm wrong or right. Even if I didn't follow the book, at least I would know if I was wrong. Does anyone have a book of this sort? Does anyone know how to find it? If so, I would be much abliged.

xxoo,
LMM